Fall Newsletter #2: The Chronicles of the Traveling Healer, This fall I am is enough! Are you?

This might come as a surprise but it takes me weeks to write these emails.

When I sit down to write them immediately the little girl in me thinks, how dare you? What makes you think that anyone cares where we have been or where we are going?  The abandoned little girl inside if me reminds me that we are not enough. Remember she says, that our mom left us cause we were not enough? That no matter what we do, write or where we travel to or have been, no one will love us and they will leave us anyway.  But, ain’t I a healer? you ask.

Yes, Yes I am “thetravelinghealer or #thepeopleshealer and even healers, especially healers and first responders, and everyone on the front lines of social justice, of people work need healing from their own incomplete past. As I reflect on the current political times and its continuous impact on my community, my own family and the earth, I too have lost something these past couple of years. I have lost hope and gained anxiety. I have lost faith and gained numbness and I have lost power and gained fear in a way I never thought. There is no way that one cannot be faced with their own past right now. A historical past being rewritten and an intergenerational past being awoken in all of us. I have spoken to so many comrades who have shared feelings of powerlessness, questioning their roles, their positions, and their ability to make a change. Many questioning our own existence. Faced with our deepest fear, in deep reflection, there is no way that some of us have not pulled out all our survival skills to survive these times. And for me not being enough is my strongest survival mechanism. It keeps me safe at home and not out in front, succeeding. It makes me small, not taking too much space or making too much noise.  For all intent and purpose not being enough keeps me oppressed and well, being a good slave.

So, when my little girl reminds me how we have survived all these years, of course at first, I believe her and then I remember.  I look back at who I was and I also remember that I am not her anymore. That all my healing has transformed me. I remind her I am, we are unstoppable, unshakeable, unapologetic, and unrecognizable. She needs to trust me I tell her. Its Fall and we are the divine source. We are our own mother and this season we are Enough.

Are you Enough?

This question is my gift to us all this Fall season. Being Enough in a world that says we are negotiable, we are dispensable and we are not enough to belong here. Being enough has to be our weapon our medicine this Fall, our strongest survival tool and self-care practice. But first let’s think about what do we need to restore, repair, heal and cultivate in our lives, to show up as enough?

Ask yourself: What myths have been told to you about you that does not belong to you? What would be possible in your life if being Enough is what led your life this season?

Miracles happen when I believe I am Enough. I walk straighter, I look people in the eyes, I hang with friends, I am a better lover, partner, wife, mother, and daughter. And most of all I am a more powerful, magical social justice activist, organizer, and healer. When I am enough, I pack fear in my bag make it my ally and travel anyway and most importantly I get BOLD enough to write you these emails.In all my voices, (my little girl and my adult self), Our gift for us this Fall season is the declaration of being enough!  May we be free from the suffering of a past we had no control over. May we be free from believing that we are not enough and that we don’t belong and be free of the suffering it causes to our minds, body, and spirit when we internalize it. May we be open to all the possibilities that being enough opens up for us. May you know there is more to you than what people say or this world has you believe. I pray that this fall we see the option of another world and that we empty our minds of all limiting beliefs that keep us stagnant. And I pray that this moment, this life, this year, these days and hours leading up to the possibility of another world you stand in nothing but your most powerful legendary self.

In BOLD Love,
Dr. Dee
#thepeopleshealer

P.S.  No one should be alone right now.  Please, reply to this message and let me know what being enough means to you and what challenges do you face when you don’t feel like you are enough? 

WHAT BEING ENOUGH LOOKS LIKE For Me THIS FALL? COME OUT AND Travel with me…

Oct 24-28th, Atlanta, GA
SisterSong 4th Annual National Let’s Talk About Sex Conference 
Sistersong presents The Womyn of Color Healing Justice Consortium on Reproductive and Gender-Based Violence.  Also, WOCN, Inc and the Consortium bring you the first Healing Justice Pop Up Shop for Self-care, Healing and Re-LOVE-ution!
Sept 27-29th Omega Institute Women and Power Conference.  This beautiful spirit and voice Anhayla Stanley had me in tears today. So grateful for her voice at this event it was like she was calling my spirit into action, remember who you are was her message to me, you are enough, you deserve everything! She reminded of my legacy, my worth and the road to get there. She reminded me that everything I am, everything I have done and everything I am doing is about getting free and getting back to me. I wanna be free! #thepeoplershealer #anhaylastanley
“no matter what they say, I am enough, when they say you don’t matter, I am enough, when they put you down, I am enough, no matter what you look like, I am enough, no matter what you are going through I am enough”
Batala New York – All Women Afro-Brazilian Samba, Reggae Percussion Band. So this happened last month. Met these amazing sisters and  I can’t describe the feeling of beating the drum on sacred land with my people. My body vibrated and with every beat, I asked the universe to release old hurts and pains from my body. To help me feel again so I can stand in power in my body. With every beat that vibrated I asked for restoration and reconciliation. These sisters gave me my life back. My heart beats different. I can breathe! Thank you for lending me your scared instrument the drum so I could heal!

Fall Newsletter #1 Where in the World is Dr. DEE? I have missed you.

Happy Fall Equinox, its been way too long. I even miss myself.
Unless you are on my facebook page or follow me on instagram you probably haven’t heard from me in a while.

Where have I been you ask?

1. I have been in school. Congrats to me! In August, I officially graduated from the University of Southern California, School of Social Work as Dr. Marte. Specifically, I took 2 years to condense all my 20+ years of work into an amazing dissertation titled Every Little Girl has a Story : The Impact of Gender-Based Violence on the Social, Emotional and Spiritual Intelligence of Women Who Lead Social Justice and Social Service Organizations. Thank you to everyone that supported me in all the ways. I love you!

2. From Thailand to Nepal, El Salvador to Brazil, New Orleans to New York City, I have been taking Healing Justice all over the world at the intersection of reproductive justice and gender-based violence. Personal and organizational trauma support work is crucial during these political times. If you know me then you know my personal mission and vision is transforming the way we heal from violence towards a world where women and girls are liberated, awakened voices and birthing justice.

3.  BEING A Mother, daughter, wife, and grandmother….Whew! Being a Wife? Wait, what? Yes, I got married to my beautiful wife last June and well marriage like any other journey is a beast and the perfect healing space for all the incompletion of your past to show up in full effect especially when you think you have healed and are ready for the “one”.  So in the midst of school, I was also learning how to love. But re-learning intimacy and love without violence in the middle of taking care of an elderly mom and fighting to save my daughter soul from abuse has proven to be nothing but challenging.

In the past two years, my own existence and well everything I stand for has come head to head in an internal war to stop saving everyone in my family and put myself first. As a result, I have learned that ending generational violence and trauma is not just about making sure another person in your family doesn’t get abused, it’s about learning how to love the person and stay connected even when you have to let go and watch them possibly die from their own choices. Learning to be a witness and not a life savior has been my biggest lesson. Becoming a grandmother to a precious magical boy has me recommitting to the work and myself in different ways.

Letting go and letting god and knowing the difference between my limits as a human, what I can and cannot do, from when I need to step aside and let spirit handle it has saved my own soul. I didn’t know it then but these last 2 years I was becoming she who can finish a PhD while being a stand for herself, taking her family out of generational poverty and abuse all while maintaining her capacity to love another, to love herself and dream another world for her grandchild.

That is my gift to all of you this Fall season. May we transcend any human attachments we have this season that brings us fear of letting go of people, places and things that no longer serve us. May we know when we have reached our limit and capacity to save others so we can call God to do his work and get out of the way. May this fall you walk with spirit unapologetic, unstoppable and become so unrecognizable that it changes the game of this earth and your life breaking generational trauma, poverty, and oppression.

In BOLD Love,
Dr. Dee
#thepeopleshealer

P.S.  No one should be alone right now.  Please, reply to this message and let me know where you have been and what is the biggest challenge you are facing right now? What do you need to stand in your power this fall?

@The Power to Give Hollywood Event:  A Night of Decolonizing Wealth. Co-hosted by Edgar Villanueva author of Decolonizing Wealth and Inspired Justice co-CEO/Founder Jlove Calderon and Matt Mcgorry and the magical and funny Master of Ceremonies Dayna Lynn North. From left to right Dayanara Marte, Ella Turenne, Dawn-Lyen Gardner, Favianna Rodriguez, (Left back) Richie “Reseda” Edmond Vargas, (Front center) Dayna Lynne North, (Center back )Matt Mcgorry, Edgar Villanueva, (RIght Back) Jay Ellis, Zoe Flowers and Jlove Calderon.
So honored to be featured in She Magazine USA as one of the socially conscious fashionistas of NYC. So proud of this collective group of women doing amazing things all over the U.S. From cybersecurity, BET Her, to Ending Human Trafficking this group is in the revolution and the frontlines looking good. Thank you to Jacquelyn Aluotto, founder of Real Beauty Real Women for being a stand to end violence against women and girls.

Special 2019 Coaching Packages: Transforming the way you LOVE, LIVE and LEAD!

 

Every Little Girl Seasonal Healing and Transformational Leadership Coaching Packages 
 Transforming the way we live, love and lead.

Every Little Girl Coaching Package for organizational and personal leadership will take participants through a seasonal healing journey of death and rebirth of themselves so that they can lead their lives from a place of power and not from an unhealed past. I believe that you where born powerful and courageous, brave, deserving, worthy and belonging and then something happened. Something happened that shaped who you are today in all its resiliency and trauma. In our sessions we will explore the impact that violence (domestic, intimate partner, sexual assault, rape, molestation, child sexual abuse, incest, war, poverty, neglect, and institutional violence) has had on your mind, body and spirit and how it has shaped the way you lead your personal and
organizational life. Together, we will create practices towards a paradigm shift of your spirit by building your personal and collective capacity to lead your life and create the world you want to live in.

Spiritual Healing adds a unique dimension to my work towards the

  • Completion of core beliefs of self that limit your thinking
  • Revelation of untold stories and trauma to get to the root
  • Identification of patterns that contradict your future self
  • Ritualizing practices to support you in manifesting
  • Reclaiming cultural ways of leading and being a leader

The focus of my coaching is on the desired outcome and impact you want to have in the world, in your life
and family right now and in the future. Therefore, all our coaching conversation will take place in the
present and what habits, practices and behaviors you are doing that can impact your future.

We will focus on where you are in the moment, how you got there and what is stopping you from having what you say you want? Tell me what you are producing and I will tell you what you are committed to.

With your desired outcomes clear, we will create possibilities and a game plan on how to get from where you are and where you want to be. We will set up accountability practices that will support you in knowing if your actions and ways of being are in
alignment with what you want to produce in the world, your mission and values as well as your happiness and wellbeing and follow through with what you say you are committed to. Grounding our coaching in reality is an important tool to move
beyond fear and resistance.

You are the expert of your life and the journey of deep discovery you will go on with me will support you in distinguishing your own truth from those you have internalized due to trauma, violence and oppression. All I do is hold space and stand by you. I am a witness and a container & I listen for what you are not saying and say what you need to hear; you are worthy, it was not your fault, you are enough, you are loved, you belong, you did not deserve it, and you are whole, perfect and complete.

Something’s you will become present to in our sessions and come into your own awareness are
• What is possible and impossible for you to create given what you believe about yourself and what
you are currently doing?
• What about who you are being and doing would need to shift in order for you to have the
relationships and life you truly want?
• What is the story, the personal, historical and intergenerational context within which you are
operating from and who created it, your little girl, your adolescent self or the young adult in you?
• What are your beliefs, judgments, assumptions and expectations and what are they costing you?
• What is at stake and what is your probable future if you continue to let trauma and the past lead
you?

Coaching Packages for Organizational and Personal Leadership

For a consultation request go to https://dayanaramarte.com/contact/ 

1. Seasonal Personalized package: Three months of coaching (Fall, Winter, Spring and
Summer) 10 hours for 3 months each season

• Crisis/Need to talk calls
• Individually designed calls – Online live or phone
• Goal Setting/Evaluation Process-Creation of the future self (2hrs)
• Quarterly Assessment of all areas (2hrs)
• Unlimited email and text access
• Complimentary Copy of In BOLD Rebirth Seasonal Newsletter
• (BONUS) Transition of Seasons Celebration and Re-Evaluation
• Weekly accountability updates to be sent by email or text
• Join face book private group
• First to know about upcoming Mastermind groups, webinars, retreats or other events for
clients/members only
• Get quick results with transformative assignments and practices
• Access to books and materials as requested.

Price: free 30 minute consultation/TBD based on what is created!

2. VIP Deep Immersion Retreat
Is a deep discovery process that dives into the root of your story to un cover the pieces of your life
that have had the most impact on you today, have shaped who you are in the world, what you think
you deserve, what you are worth and what you have the ability to manifest. We will unpack your
dreams and create a game plan for your life. We will look at what area of your life do you want
freedom in? Who your spirit is longing to be? What goals do you want to meet that will bring you
joy and closer to what you most care about? Most importantly, we will identify what is at stake and
what is it costing you, your joy, aliveness, love, health, wealth?
In a safe space we will practice techniques in emotional release to support any healing your mind,
body and spirt may need to let go of trauma so that you can meet all of yourselves with love and
compassion.

Face to face heal and transformation retreat ( 4 hours)
1 month unlimited follow up email / text
As needed check in calls (at least 2)
Personalized rituals, advanced spiritual practices and additional time (add’t cost)

Price: free 30 minute consultation/TBD based on what is created!

3. Train the Trainer/Heal the Healer
My innovative approach, combined with healing and spirituality has proved consistently effective in
supporting executive directors, facilitators, healers, advocates, organizers, coaches, social workers and
people on the frontlines of social justice in how they show up in their organizational and leadership
development roles. I support you in building the capacity of your most valuable asset – yourself – so you
can have the spiritual capacity and professional confidence to meet the personal and leadership demands
of this changing world and the people in your life. My aim is to be an indispensable thinking partner you can
trust to support you in having the impact you want to have in the world.
Price: per budget

Support with
Facilitation skills/practices
Review assessment and evaluation materials
Program/coaching/training/retreat development
Co-create materials and agenda
Review contracts/agenda
Negotiating worth
Consulting as needed
Supervision, staff development  & On-boarding
Leadership capacity building

Price: free 30 minute consultation/TBD based on what is created!

4. Co-facilitation
Working with a colleague, as a co-facilitator is part of the collaborative contribution I want to have in the
world. Co-facilitating provides an opportunity for greater impact, personal and professional development,
shared leadership and meaningful exchange. Together, we complement each other styles, monitor and
facilitate individual and group dynamic, provide opportunity for personal and professional growth and offer
a model for meaningful role plays/interventions.

Working together on contract/negotiation (as needed)
Co-create agenda
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Join pre-post meetings
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Price:free 30 minute consultation/per contract

For a consultation request go to https://dayanaramarte.com/contact/  or email me directly @ [email protected]

A Conversation about Healing our Little Girls

With over 1,000 views, I am excited to share with you all an end of the yer conversation about healing our little girls so she can dream 2017 in her most powerful way

In Puerto Plata, Dominican Republic with Lilada Gee, founder of Lilada’s Living Room– a not for profit organization committed to creating a safe space for girls and women to heal from the devasation of sexual abuse.

Here our conversation in my living room in Puerto Plata about healing our little girls. #blackwomanheal

 

In Puerto Plata, Dominican Republic with Dayanara Marte talking about healing our little girls. #blackwomanheal

Posted by Lilada Gee on Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Statement in Solidarity with the Global Women’s March 2017

As women from all over the world prepare to gather and march on Jan 20th, global healers are also preparing to hold the rim of the circle for them. In BOLD Rebirth is organizing a global call to send them off in prayer, invoking them in light and protection and making sure that our ancestors lead the march.

We have always know that the battle against humanity is also a spiritual war. The cost of capitalism and violence against women and girls and the LGBT community and black folk is their power, their aliveness, their creativity and in essence their SPIRIT.

As women, young girls, and communities all over the world prepare to March on Jan 21st, it is imperative that they prepare not just for their physical safety but their spiritual safety as well. We need healing spaces. We are creating a safe space for those of us unable to attend marchs (because of work, mental health, accessibility or other needs) to join the call. We are ALL in this together. We need those attending to know that they are not alone. That we are watching, we are witnessing, we are holding them, containing, praying, conjuring, burning candles, and doing rituals for their safety mind, body and spirit.

THIS IS A GLOBAL CALL TO ACTION for HEALERS all over the WORLD,hosted by Stephanie Syd Yang and Dayanara Marte and you our partners this Friday, Jan 20th, 9am PST, 10am MST, 11am, CST and 12pm EST to prepare ourselves spirituality and conjure what we want to be inaugurating this weekend and for the next four years.

Pre-election and post-inauguration and everyday and moment in between women and women of color specifically have been holding their breathe and their bodies as they have experienced violence on all fronts, mind, body and spirit. And they will March anyway, survivors and victims.

As always women once again will put their bodies and spirits on the line and they will need the support of something so much bigger than them…their spirituality! We will let them know that with all their failed attempts our spirit are still here and more powerful than ever.

Join us to
1. Call in your ancestors, who do you want to march with you this weekend?
2. Vision what you want to inaugurate this weekend in your life and for the world and for the work you are doing?
3. Invoke spiritual warriors and freedom fighters that we want to lead this march and have our sides, back , front, and who we want above and below?
4. Create a spiritual safety plan and medicine bag? What do you need to take with you?

Here is what you can and should do this week to prepare yourself, your organization, your constituency and the people going with you. ATTEND the call this FRIDAY, Jan 20th from 12:00-1:00pm EST, Spiritual Warrior: Inauguration Send Off. We will host a global conference call to prepare individually and spiritually for the March, talk about the impact that Marching may have on you during the event and what you can do, gather some resources and talk about next steps after the march is over.

Stay tuned for more details on our post-March debrief call, happening a few days after the March.This will also be a safe space to heal, release and share.

What makes moments like this historical is not just the change that transpires in the world but the power that women have to unite their spiritual energies and create visible magic at a point in time when they are the most invisible and when their spirituality is what capitalism fears the most.

HEALERS gather as a call to action from their ancestors on this day. We are making a call to the healers of this world to prepare us spiritually to march and gives us our cultural tools of resistance against any violence that may occur on January 21st . We arm our communities with the spiritual tools of our ancestors because it is our human right.

Spiritual Warriors United
Dayanara Marte and Stephanie Syd Yang

For those who were unable to join the call, the following is the recording.

Listen in to join the prayers, meditations, centering practices and gifts from a variety of powerful healers: Dayanara Marte, Zoe Flowers, Guadalupe Rocio Chavez, Jessica Robinson, Stephanie Syd Yang

http://bluejaguarlove.com/2017/01/spiritual-warriors-unite-prayer-invocation-call/

Global call to Prayer: Spiritual Warriors United

On Friday, Jan 20, 2017 — many gathered on a Global prayer call hosted by myself Dayanara Marte  and Stephanie Syd Yang , to invoke protection, connection + our ancestors as we headed into a powerful weekend of protests and Marches to stand up for the rights of all those being erased and attacked by the new government administration.

For those who were unable to join the call, the following is the recording.

Listen in to join the prayers, meditations, centering practices and gifts from a variety of powerful healers: Dayanara Marte, Zoe Flowers, Guadalupe Rocio Chavez, Jessica Robinson, Stephanie Syd Yang

with much love + respect,

Spiritual Warriors Unite – Prayer + Invocation Call

 

Get Out Of Your Own Way: Spiritual Empowerment

Get out of your own way in 2017. I am so honored to have spoke at this amazing event just in time for the new year. In case you missed it and want to learn how to get of your own way this year listen below.

For victims and survivors of violence learning how to get out of our own way very important on the healing journey and one of the most difficult tasks. Let me share with you 5 takeaways that I got for myself that I will take on in practice this 2017.

1. Spirituality is ever evolving.
2. Spirituality is a personal journey.
3. Spirituality is about creating change.
4. The cost of capitalism, violence and oppression is our spirituality.
5. Spirituality is everything we do to become more than our stories and heal from our past.

To hear more click on the link below and listen for yourself. Join me as I get out of my own way and say yes to more opportunities like this year.

Get Out of Your Own Way in 2017: Spiritual Empowerment with our expert Panel Abiola Abrams, Tera Carissa Hodges, Dayanara Marte and host Lilada Gee.

Get Out of Your Own Way: Spiritual Empowerment

 

 

National Call for Women of Color in Leadership

SAVE the DATE March 7th, 2017  7pm-8:30pm EST
Join your host Dayanara Marte  and Zoe Flowers, Tuesday, March 7th from 7pm-8:30pm EST.
2nd National Call for women of color in leadership for a moment of debrief and exhale from a
Inspired by our first call… with over 80 registrants on Feb 7th, women of color from all over the US got together to exhale, to share, to hear and to see each other in a world deeming them invisible. With such an amazing energy, there was no way we could walk away without thinking about what’s next and how we can stay connected over the next couple of months. The need for women of color to convene and share resources and energy is needed now more than ever.
Our first call was dedicated to a state of emergency that the new administration has created in our nation and specifically in the lives of people of color all around the world. This call is dedicated to the STATE of WTF…from immigration raids to victims of domestic violence being deported, families torn apart, and still the impending cuts on well everything, fear still creeps into our beds at night and wakes us up in the morning as we do not know what our communities will be facing the next day.
Are you an executive director, a service provider, activist, organizer, advocate, healer, consultant, social worker ? Are you a women of color in a position of leadership serving immigrants, women and girls, incarcerated and LGBT and are feeling the impact by the political climate? Are you being impacted by the possible cuts in Obama Care, Violence against Women Act? Are you fearful for yourself, family and community because of the immigration raids and the ban on immigrants? Are you a refugee, immigrant, sexual assault and war survivor being triggered by what’s happening?
SAVE the DATE March 7th, 2017  7pm-8:30pm EST. Register today @​http://bit.ly/2mvHLpX  For More info please contact [email protected] or [email protected]
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 Tuesday, Feb 7th, 2017
2pm-3:30pm EST

REGISTER TODAY @

Join your host Dayanara Marte   and Zoe Flowers in collaboration with Black Women’s Blueprint  and Women of Color Network, Inc. National call for women of color in leadership for a moment of debrief and exhale.

Are you an executive director, a service provider, activist, organizer, advocate, healer, consultant, social worker ? Areyou a women of color in a position of leadership serving immigrants, women and girls, incarcerated and LGBT and are feeling the impact by the political climate? Are you being impacted by the possible cuts in Obama Care, Violence against Women Act and the ban on immigrants? Are you a refugee, immigrant, sexual assault and war survivor being triggered by what’s happening?
Then Save your Spot & REGISTER TODAY at http://bit.ly/2jBXjHO
Join us from where ever you are Tuesday, Feb 7th, 2017. Take your lunch, listen on the bus, make it a staff meeting or family affair from your house but don’t miss it.
In BOLD Rebirth

 

SAN-DIEGO June 6-10th Dealing with Vicarious Trauma

Sesca

Dayanara will be sharing her knowledge with participants at the upcoming 2016 Enhancing Capacity Seminar presented by The National Organization of Sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault (SCESA) in partnership with the U. S. Department of Justice – Office on Violence Against Women.

The Enhancing Capacity Seminar, “Culturally Specific Services Addressing Sexual Assault”, will be held Monday, June 6th – Friday, June 10th, 2016 in San Diego, California. The purpose of the Enhancing Capacity Seminar on “Culturally Specific Services Addressing Sexual Assault” is to enhance the capacity of Communities of Color organizations to provide culturally specific services addressing sexual assault. The Capacity Seminar will provide intensive skills based training and information on how to engage in culturally specific program planning and implementation strategies (particularly services and outreach) that reflect the occurrence and complexity of sexual assault in Communities of Color.

Dayanara will facilitate Dealing with Vicarious Trauma –  She will explore secondary trauma of advocates as well as self-care methods and resources. 

SheLeadsRadio: Rebirth, Resilient, Resound

Listen to me talk about In BOLD Rebirth on She Leads Radio with Piper Anderson
she leads radio
Piper Anderson

TOPIC: Rebirth, Resilient, Resound!  Our stories have the power to heal and incite social change. I share the mic with  Artistic Creators of Coming Out Muslim, Wazina Zondon and Terna Tilley-Gyado.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sheleadsradio/2011/10/15/rebirth-resilience-resound